Extract

I dont remember where I have read the below excerpt but I have recently found it laid down in the pages of one of my old diaries. Thought of sharing it with you as the message portrayed in the extract touched my heart.

"When we're incomplete, we're always searching for somebody to complete us.When after a few years or a few months of a relationship, we find that we are still unfulfilled, we blame our partners and take up with somebody more promising. This can go on and on - series polygamy - until we admit that while a partner can add sweet dimensions to our lives, we, each of us, are responsible for our fulfillment.Nobody else can provide it for us, and to believe otherwise is to delude ourselves dangerously and to program for eventual failure every relationship we enter."

Monologue

It's 1.30 am and after a hiatus of about almost two years or more, am back to blogging again mostly because I am feeling lonely and bored. My husband went to USA for a fortnight and I stayed on my own in a city for the first time in my life testing my strength to bear solitude. For two weeks I didnt step out of home except sometimes to buy groceries and I didnt interact with real people (except three hours of visit paid by my friend and former colleague Priya). Yes I was onto Facebooking all the while. I am a virtual person and most of my friends really close to me including my husband are all whom I met in the virtual world. Ofcourse I met some bad people also but there is downside to everything. The virtuality cannot be held accountable for the bad experiences and who doesnot have bad experience in life? There is a quote from Somerset Maugham "If you walk down the level all the time, the muscle you need to climb a mountain will atrophy". To rephrase it in simplified words "if you dont struggle or face hardship in life, you wont garner the strength to survive amid crisis." So alongside all the beautiful moments and ups of life, it's also equally important to face some downs.

Anyway, without digressing further, I must ejaculate my coming to terms with some basic realization that I sensed in my husband's absence. One : I took him and his feeling for me for granted and his brief absence made me realize how integral he has become to my life. Two: Some awful creatures try taking advantage of your lonely state by making advances towards you (I was invited for a short venture by no other than one of my husband's friends who hitherto never showed the desire to meet my hubby and only during his absence felt the need to call on me when his own wife was away from the city. Undoubtedly my analysis of human character made me caution my husband months before that this friend in question would try taking chance with me in his absence.) and, Three : The relationship and bond that one shares with oneself is really pure and fantastic and it's important to take some time out of one's busy schedule to spend time introspecting oneself.